When a Man Loves a Woman.
When a Man Loves a Woman depicts the story
on the family facing alcoholism in their family members. The movie started with
the beginning of how Michael, the airline pilot met and started a romantic
relationship with Alice. The movie proceeds continue to start showing Alice's
signs of issues in dealing with alcoholism, the lack of self control on
emotions and behavior after being drunk. Until the problem went even serious
where she began to even hurt her daughter and herself, Michael discussed with
Alice and decided to send her to clinic for rehab to overcome the alcoholism
issue. Then, the story continues to talk about the how the issues arised in the
movie after the returning and recovered Alice to the family and how was the
reactions of the family and Michael, her husband. There were few highlights
that I specifically focused in the movie.
Emotional validation
The movie highlighted the importance of
the need of being accepted and validated for our emotions and feelings.
Sometimes when we are the state of bad mood, sadness, anger and grief, what we
need was not a solution to overcome these emotion but someone to accept and
listen to us. We all have the need for someone to be able to accept and
validate for who we are including our feelings and thoughts. The movie
portrayed the importance of emotion validation in a love relationship. Michael
was the example in the movie where he was constantly trying to be the problem
solver, the fixer to help his wife which is genuinely a way of showing his love
towards his wife. However, Michael's behavior of constantly trying to help his
wife overcoming the problem neglected the importance of recognizing the reasons
behinds of Alice's feelings an thoughts causing Alice begin to feel herself as
worthless and unaccepted by her husband. The only need that Alice wanted in the
whole process was only to be listened and accepted by her husband, Michael
instead of trying to solve the problem.
The role of effective communication in
maintaining relationship
The importance of communication was one of
the highlights I focused in the movie between Alice and Michael. Communication
is important in maintaining relationship to be able to effectively convey
messages of their thoughts so that mistakes and misunderstanding are understand
and able to overcome it. In the movie, there were few instances of
misunderstanding in the relationship that could have been overcome earlier if
Michael and Alice actually communicate to each other more effectively on the
issues that arises from their behaviors. Alice could have actually told her
husband, Michael the actual need in their relationship which is someone to
listen to her, accept her and support her. Michael as the loving husband if was
able to know and understand the need of his wife, Alice I believed he would
perform and communicate with Alice to avoid more conflicts and arguments in the
movie.
Gender differences in relationships
Gender differences were also one of the highlights of the movie
that I focused. In the movie, we can see
that Alice and Michael portrayed the different need of each gender where
females would more likely tend to have their feelings and thoughts shared
through listening from their loved ones while Michael as the typical males in
relationship which tend to be the problem solver, the one who attempt solve and
fix the problem that is faced by their loved ones. Recognizing the gender
differences in their need in a relationship definitely is important which will
be able to further help in maintaining relationship.
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